Hebrews 10: 24 says, “And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works” (ESV). The NIV uses “how to spur one another on toward love and good deeds,” which I prefer. Either way our spouse should be the ultimate stirrer or spurrer in our lives. I once heard someone say, “How is your husband a better person because he is married to you?”
That’s a thought-provoking question, and one we should all have answers for. I wish I had a whole list of obvious answers, but I don’t. I do think Will is better able to overcome discouragement and disappointments because he married to me. I think he is able to have a more eternal perspective because he is married to me, but I need to grow my list. I want to be the ultimate spurrer in his life.
And as for Will, he is a faithful spurrer. He holds me accountable — making me stick to deadlines for projects and ideas. And I am implicitly stirred and spurred by the fact that he has such a high opinion of me. He thinks I’m wise and discerning; he values my opinion even on matters for which I know very little. His esteem is very, very spurring because I desperately want to live up to his rose-colored assessment.
So tonight I’m praying that I’ll be able to spur my husband on to love and good deeds, and that he’ll be a better man because I’m his wife.