Marriage Monday: Move A Lot

Yes, I know it’s Tuesday but yesterday was Middleburg Monday for me and I never had a chance to sit down and write. Do you ever just feel like you want to throw in the towel and move to the country? I mean the stock market may have posted a significant gain yesterday, but I’m thinking I may soon regret not pursuing chickens, goats and guns as a portfolio. And since I have a friend who recently moved to the country I decided to just drive out there and see, could we live there? Could the Jackson Five be a commuting, acreage-owing family? And let me tell you Middleburg has ambiance and charm galore! My friend’s fabulous new home is surrounded by rolling hills, mountain views and horse farm after horse farm. Plus, Middleburg has an adorable downtown to boot. It’s only 35 miles West — which sounds close enough, but this is DC and getting there in an hour is a feat.

I’m not convinced it’s for us, although I never say never. As you may know, Will and I have lived a nomadic life for the past five years. We moved back from Florida between Christmas and New Years in 2007. We have not resided in a “permanent” residence yet because we only sold our house in Florida this August. But the search that has existed at some level for all of these five years, is really on now. We want this move to be our last.

But that brings me to my point – people say moving is one of the most stressful things we encounter in life, and in a sense it is. I’m not going to say I love everything about it. I don’t. But there’s something undeniably bonding about it. It’s a shared life experience that can be sort of fun. We’ve lived in six different locations in Northern Virginia, in New Orleans, and in Viera, Florida. That’s a lot of moving. But that’s also a lot of memories and laughs. Many of the classic lines in our family occurred during moves. They represent some of our most cherished memories, the kind of laughs we will pass down to our children’s children.

So I don’t know if you have a move on the horizon. I don’t know if you can relate about previous moves, but life is so often about perspective. As couples we are sure to face processes and situations that are seemingly insurmountable, messy and draining, but may we face these together, for the long haul, and may we be willing to laugh in the midst of chaos.

As Paul wrote to the Corinthians, “[Love] always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres” 1 Cor. 13:7 (NIV).

Praying this verse today for my marriage and for yours.

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