I have no idea how many posts I could write about the topic of submission — it’s a big topic, and one which I have many thoughts about, but today I just want to take one teensy little slice — submitting on the need to be right.
Do you like to be right? Because I love it. Especially in my marriage. In fact, I can be a serious freak about it. A couple weeks ago, Will and I saw a movie. It was not the movie we went to see, it was the back-up to the back-up. The other shows were sold out. So we watched this movie and part of me had to admit that it was well-done, but part of me hated this movie. And because I like to be “right,” I wanted Will to hate this movie too. But he didn’t. Even when I persuasively explained why this movie was atrocious and demeaning, he still liked it. Of course, it is a bit of a catch-22 for my darling husband. Because if I could control him, I would absolutely despise him.
Or how about something less subjective? Like the fastest way home. Yes, I like to be right about that, too. Give me any problem, question or dilemma, and I love knowing the answer.
But Paul wrote to the Corinthians that knowledge puffs up while love builds up. (1 Corinthians 8:1). “Puffed up” is such a descriptive term, and a swollen ego is a disgusting thing. That’s not what I want. No bloating — of any kind — please! So this Marriage Monday, may I be willing to submit my need to be right. May I visualize the hideous state of being puffed up, and by God’s faithful provision of grace, be loving instead.
This week, may the words and actions in all of our homes be loving and constructive!