As a mother, especially a young mama, it’s a truism that any venture into the bathroom will elicit immediate needs by your children. It’s ridiculous. And predictable. Thousands of mamas everywhere have made this observation. But a recent example of this phenomenon still has me smiling over it’s unapologetic boldness.
A few days ago, I was upstairs in my bathroom when I heard Sam, my seven-year-old, yelling from downstairs, “MOM!! MOM!!”
And there was such a persistence in his tone that I answered, yelling back, “Yeah?!?”
“Mom! Do you know where any money is? I’m raising it.”
I couldn’t help being amused by the boldness of his request. No explanation whatsoever, just a suspicious employment of terminology he’s obviously heard before. Money — he’s “raising it.” No justification or elaboration needed.
I answered from the bathroom with one loud word: “No!” I never heard about his “fundraising” again.
The thing is I wish I was more shameless sometimes about the things I want to say or do. I can write about the things I believe (please check out my new advent devotional by clicking here). But face-to-face I’m much more reserved. In fact, recently I had a conversation that I walked away from with a sinking heart. Why didn’t I seize the opportunity to say more? Why didn’t I unapologetically say what I really think? Why did I let the fear of what this person would think of me muzzle my view on the matter?
But I have two takeaways from that encounter. One is to pray to be more bold. Peter says that we should always be ready to give an answer: “but in your hearts honor Christ the Lord as holy, always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and respect” 1 Peter 3:15 (ESV). May the Lord help me to do just that, and to do it with gentleness and respect.
The other thing that I did do in the moment — in the course of this conversation that I wish I would’ve been more bold in — was ask a good question. Ravi Zacharias says that a useful apologetic tool is to question the questioner. When you find yourself in a situation where you don’t agree with someone, can you take a step back and ask a question about what they are saying? About the underlying beliefs of the assertion? Do you listen carefully to their answers? I hope I did at least that.
Heavenly Father, thank you for opportunities to share my faith. Help me to be bold and gentle and loving and respectful. Help me to ask good questions and to be a good listener. Thank you, Lord, for loving me no matter what. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.